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In her research, Dweck also documents that when individuals fail at something, they tell themselves that they aren’t capable of ever accomplishing that task or they will make excuses to rationalize their behaviour. Alternatively those with a growth mindset view their failures as an opportunity to develop their skills and abilities. They have a desire to learn and a tendency to:
The growth mindset builds a resilient attitude in individuals.
BECOMING RESILIENT
Resilience is the ability to cope with stress and to ‘bounce back’ from adversity in a positive, self-regulating manner. Harvard Health cites, ‘resilience is associated with longevity, lower rates of depression, and greater satisfaction with life. “There’s a sense of control, and it helps people feel more positive in general.’ *
According to research by Susan Kobasa, a psychologist – she found that resiliency has three elements associated with it:
UNDERSTANDING GRIT
Much like resilience, grit is a trait that develops through experience. Angela Lee Duckworth, psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania led a study on grit and has found grit to be a common factor among the high-achievers she has studied. She defines grit as, “the tendency to sustain interest in and effort toward very long-term goals” (Duckworth et al., 2007).
Grit is sustained, consistent long-term effort towards a goal even when one struggles, falters or fails. Furthermore, grit involves passion and perseverance. The five characteristics of grit are:
Grit provides understanding of why some people succeed while others fail. In short, it’s because those that succeed view mistakes as temporary opportunities to learn and grow, and they have a passion and focused persistence.
OVERCOMING YOUR FAILURES AND SETBACKS
Resilience, grit and growth mindset are interconnected are developed over time.
It’s a lot like developing your muscles, you need to identify your goals and commit to your action plan while ‘exercising’ self-discipline, persistence and patience. In the process, you will begin to raise your self-awareness which will lead you towards identifying your strengths, weaknesses and potential challenges that you may encounter.
By cultivating a growth mindset, you better understand that your abilities and behaviours are not fixed, and you can start to transform your lifestyle. This type of mindset requires you to understand that taking certain risks will lead you to failure – knowing how to rebound from setbacks while applying your resilience and grit is what will drive you ahead in achieving your short and long-term goals.
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]]>Science reveals that the happiest people have the richest and most satisfying relationships. Connection is important and it’s right up there with satisfying our most basic needs for survival. However, this is not to be mistaken with quantity over quality.
A book review in a 2016 publication of Comparative Psychology for Clinical Psychologists and Therapists reveals that it’s the quality of your connections that contributes towards your happiness than having a multitude of friendships/relationships. Social connection is necessary for experiencing a more a happier life, but your relationships don’t have to be based on friendship as long as a meaningful connection has been established.
THRIVING RELATIONSHIPS
In a 2015 paper published in, Current Opinion in Psychology, researchers, Brooke Feeney and Nancy Collins created a model that identifies thriving relationships having two contexts associated to them* :
DEVELOPING CONNECTIONS
Feelings of connection increase motivation, improve your mood and make you feel happy. It’s important to have positive connections with: your colleagues, close family members and friends and people in your community. It can help boost your productivity and growth throughout your life.
When you can successfully apply your values and boundaries towards your relationships, there’s a meaningful connection. Knowing about Aristotle’s 3 types of friendships can be of benefit to you because you can better distinguish between the types of relationships you have with people by identifying which ones are the most meaningful:
Friends based on utility and pleasure are usually in higher numbers; however, they aren’t long-lasting. As you grow, your interests are always changing. It may take time to develop virtuous friendships because these types of relationships are the most aligned with your core values and beliefs. Aristotle believed that before this type of friendship could flourish, you must take the time to understand and honour yourself and know your values.
HOW YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO POSITIVE CONNECTIONS
When you’re in the company of happy, supportive and caring people your body will let you know. Here are some ways that your body responds to happy moments in the company of others:
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